January 12, 2022
Anyone who knows me well knows that I love to travel. It’s definitely the sixth love language, in my opinion! Sorry, Mr. Chapman! And one of the inevitabilities of traveling is flight delays. (Insert ‘frowning’ emoji, LOL).
If only a brief delay, we find ourselves remaining calm, scurrying to the bathroom for the last time on the ground, and returning to the gate to line up and board the plane. However, if the flight delay is lengthier, say 2 or more hours, impatience tends to set in. Or maybe I’m the only one?
On one of my international trips, I experienced a 5-hour flight delay from Argentina to Brazil and thought I’d lose my mind. I found myself wondering what might be wrong and even questioning my decision to choose a particular airline at the last minute. Doubts began to creep in, for sure. Finally, I started to feel bad that I was even reacting to the situation at all. And then, after the calm set in, I started to question why I wasn’t frazzled anymore. Yikes!
“Why am I not crying at this point?”
“How can I feel nothing after experiencing this loss?”
“What’s WRONG with me?”
Have you ever been there, my friend? If so, let me share that you’re 100% normal.
Reactions to flight delays, as well as delays in emotional response in the face of loss, simply reflect the fact that you’re human. Plain and simple.
Delayed grief, defined as grief not fully experienced or expressed until quite some time after loss, is not that uncommon. While it’s hard to pinpoint the exact percentage of individuals who experience a delayed grief response, this type of grief can occur for the following reasons:
Unfortunately, this is the case for many grieving hearts after experiencing a significant loss. What can occur, sometimes as a result of another significant loss or for no apparent reason at all, is an unexpected and overwhelming wave of emotion. This might take place weeks, months, or even years after experiencing the loss.
Navigating grief is complicated, and there are no rules when it comes to grieving.
Friend, share your greatest takeaway below. As always, I’d love to hear from you.
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