In case you're thinking I don't get it, let me share a few less than perfect moments ...
In 2013, I was positioned to give a talk to a 500-person audience. And no one but God knew that the night before, I was curled up in a fetal position on a hotel floor, gripped by fear and grief.
Even as I traveled around the world delivering talks on grief and loss, coping with stress, and resilience, I had my therapist on speed dial, clinging to every sliver of advice ... just to make it through the day.
From the outside looking in, I "had it all together," though I felt like I was barely keeping it together. And sleep avoided me like the plague more often than not!
Read this carefully -- you are not alone.
My mom died. My love life fell apart. My dad fell ill. And my body, mind, and spirit wouldn't sync up. Successful on the outside, I felt lonely and isolated on the inside. Then I began to re-discover what really mattered in life.
And I was pleasantly surprised by what I found ...
I had traveled up the steep mountain -- sleepless nights and a slew of sacrifices along the way, garnering a Ph.D., respect and admiration from others, and material wealth. For all intents and purposes, I had it all. Love. Support of a caring family. Career growth. Wordly success.
Then everything came crashing down.
As a woman in her mid-40’s, I’m also enjoying Sheri Salata’s “The Beautiful No.” I’m all about life transformation -- what I like to call “butterfly moments”
-- and Sheri’s story is just that. I know this will be a book I continue to re-read in the future.
These days, I’m reading Marie Forleo’s “Everything is Figureoutable” -- love this! Who else would I trust to jam along to, cry with along her recent tour, and celebrate success? Marie is my girl, for sure!
NKOTB, Backstreet Boys, Whitney Houston, MJ, and Prince - what else do you need? I can't keep up with new songs because I'm too busy enjoying the 'oldies!'
Elevation Worship's “The Blessing” is on repeat in my car right now! And, Tasha Cobbs and Hillsong - O.M.Goodness! Just lay me across the floor with a box of tissues, why don’t you?
“I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” and my Bible (gotta have my Word on me at all times!)
“Dreams are not reality; dreams have the power to create the reality we are dreaming about; all we need is the courage to
believe in the power of dreams.”
― Amar Ochani
So far, Spain … Portugal is a very close second.
Marie Forleo podcast - she’s amaze-balls!
Sushi, all day every day! (Did I mention that I love sushi?)
“Scarface” (Undercover gangsta here!)
Lawmakers to explore the need for changes to grief-bereavement leave (It sickens me that most jobs offer 3 days to soak in a death, bury a loved one, and cry a few moments before it’s time to return to work!)