February 17, 2022
Being there for someone navigating a tough moment is one thing. Consistently showing up for them for a lifelong struggle is completely different. Even as a licensed psychologist, I sometimes struggle to sit in the messy and complicated parts of other’s lives … especially when it’s challenging to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
And I don’t feel bad about it. You shouldn’t either.
Why? Because sitting with someone in the depth of tremendous loss, coupled with symptoms of lingering trauma, can feel exhausting and overwhelming.
At the same time, those who’ve experienced traumatic grief need you and me. We need each other. We need to be reminded that walking through valleys is normal. That some situations in life have no easy answers. That the flow of life isn’t linear … though on many days, we wish it was.
Often, it can be tempting to shift a person who’s grieving into a happy state. This is related, in part, to the desire to help the grieving person feel better. In addition, it’s a reflection of your own discomfort. Of course, it’s overwhelming to walk with someone in the valley of despair. And it’s understandable that as you feel the weight of their experience, you may want to avoid or minimize it altogether.
I want to encourage you to keep going. Keep showing up. Continue to make your presence known, particularly as grieving hearts feel isolated due to the grief itself.
It’s important to keep the following ideas in mind as you support your friend or family member.
I have a wonderful (and free) resource to help you support someone who’s grieving.
Click here to grab this easily digestible and informative freebie.
I’m hopeful this gift will offer you some guidance and inspire you to explore new ways to support your friend or family member as they grieve.
Learn more about managing your lifestyle, love, leadership, and loyalties to God, self, and others by clicking here: https://mekelharrisphd.com/.