June 21, 2021
First things first. Let me define what ‘grief trigger’ means.
A grief trigger is basically anything that sparks memories of a loss.
It’s not uncommon to think of birthdays, anniversaries, the holiday season, or special events as triggers for grief. What may not be as obvious, however, are the seemingly insignificant situations in life that can also trigger a grief response.
For instance, I’m reminded of a Sunday drive in my car several months ago. As I approached a stop sign, I noticed the intersection of the street I was driving on and the cross street, Patricia Lane. My mom’s name is Patricia. Yikes! Instantly, tears welled up in my eyes and for a few minutes, I had to pull over and weep as memories of her came flooding to my mind. Most recently on a walk through my neighborhood, I observed a black Harley Davidson motorcycle making its way towards me. I immediately felt sadness rush in as I recalled times my dad enjoyed traveling around the country on his bike. Grief triggers.
The tricky thing about grief triggers is their ability to create almost instantaneous feelings of longing, sadness, guilt, regret, or loneliness. Further, some grieving persons experience waves of anxiety as memories come forward. And unfortunately, due to the unpredictable nature of the not-so-obvious triggers, it’s nearly impossible to avoid them all.
That’s where decompression comes in.
Please know there are a host of strategies you could use to settle yourself, and it’s important to take stock of ones that are most helpful for you. Here, I’ll share five practices that have helped me manage my own triggers.
While you can’t control the timing of the triggers, you can take small steps to manage their aftermath.
I’d love to know what you discover.
Share your thoughts below.
Learn more about managing your lifestyle, love, leadership, and loyalties to God, self, and others by clicking here: https://mekelharrisphd.com/.